Question for the day...

How much is too much socializing when it comes to promoting yourself?

So far, I'm on Shelfari, booktour, eharlequin forums, and Twitter. I'm sure there are some that I've forgotten. I do know I'm not on myspace, but that has more to do with the fact that I don't allow my daughter on there, so it would be a bad example if I set up a myspace myself.

Now, I realize that this is a small amount compared to the sheer number of these online communities that exist out there. But how much of the time spent is a value and how much of it is time that should be spent writing? I'm already spending time writing two blogs, GhostGirl. and this one. I'm updating two websites, mine and Maine RWA as well as keeping up with email and working a full time job. There are also the writer and reader yahoo listserves and, if I'm really honest there is another time sucker Puzzle Pirate (note: I added links to the other ones, but I won't contribute to anyone elses addiction by adding th Puzzle Pirate link. You have get that one for yourselves.)

Oh ya, did I mention I've got two kids?

The other day I came across another site that looked very interesting. It's not a writer's site, but it's a paranormal one and I'm very tempted. But frankly, I had to step back and tell myself "NOT RIGHT NOW" in my very stern "mom" voice.

Part of my problem may be that I work a very retail job. I'm with people continuously all day long. The writing was a way of getting away from all of that. Besides, I'm extremely shy (no laughing Diane and Deb!) Even at conferences I have to push myself to be an extrovert.

So, are the online forums and sites a way to really help? Or are they time suckers and a place for introverts like me to hide? What do you think?

6 comments:

Marvin D. Wilson said...

"So, are the online forums and sites a way to really help? Or are they time suckers and a place for introverts like me to hide? What do you think?"

I believe they help in the overall scheme of things, I certainly have learned a lot and garnered lots of valuable marketing tips as well as writing techniques. They do NOT, however, replace good old get out there and show your face, meet and get to know people and sell yourself and your stuff marketing.

Nice post. I often have some of the same thoughts.

Helen said...

You REALLY have to pick and choose. Online sites, communities, listservs, blogs, etc. can eat away your time faster than a zombie can gnaw off your leg. Decide what your goal is and stick to it.

That's what I say.
Mmm. Good big toe.

zhadi said...

I think if we use their powers for good and not for evil that the forums and sites can be a great help. But...self-control is necessary and choosing the best ones for what your needs are. ANd yeah, I'm with Marvin in that I love meeting people face to face!

zhadi said...

WEird. I commented and it didn't take. Which means commenting again! I am pretty much in agreement with Marvin - I think this stuff helps, but there's no replacing meeting people and letting your personality shine through.

zhadi said...

WEird. I commented and it didn't take. Which means commenting again! I am pretty much in agreement with Marvin - I think this stuff helps, but there's no replacing meeting people and letting your personality shine through.

L.J. Sellers said...

I believe online networking is essential to promoting yourself as a writer. But like everything else, moderation is key. You can't let it suck up your writing time. (Give up something else instead.) And you still have to get out there in person sometimes. Such as attending one big conference a year and doing local signings.
Lj

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